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Every New Year, I think about setting a resolution for about 0.4 seconds. That’s about how committed I am to goal-setting! But this year I wondered, what if I only focused on spiritual goals instead?
Sometimes when we set generalized goals for our health, wellness, wealth or parenting, for example, we do so without a clear path or the means to achieving them.
This can leave us feeling pretty defeated by March, when our motivation has faded and the goal of doing better / feeling better seems like more of a good idea than something truly tangible.
The spiritual goals that I want to pursue this year are different, though. SO different, in my view. And here’s why:
- They’re always beneficial and worthwhile. (Unlike fad diets.)
- They help me to understand my purpose, and therefore, make decisions with greater clarity
- I don’t have to pursue these goals on my own strength!
With these things in mind to move me forward, here are 6 spiritual goals I want to pursue this year (in no particular order).
These pursuits are grounded in Scripture, so we know they’re possible! And I think every Christian mom could benefit from setting these goals – if you’re not already doing them.
Grace. It’s become a word that I hear so often, I often miss the magnitude of what it means.
Galatians 2:21 says:
“I do not set aside the grace of God, for if righteousness could be gained through the law, Christ died for nothing!”
I need this reminder SO often to avoid my Pharisee tendencies. While I’m not exactly sacrificing rams in my backyard, I sure am tempted to focus on all the “do’s and don’ts” found in the Bible, especially when it comes to parenting.
But as Josh McDowell says, “Rules without relationship leads to rebellion.” It’s true for me, and it’s true for my kiddos.
Knowing the grace that saved me is the same grace I live under today grants me freedom. Not freedom to sin, but freedom to understand my limitations, to recognize the price of my sin and the need for relationship with Jesus.
It’s the same grace I need to show my kids and everyone around me.
So one of my goals this year is to keep my inner Pharisee in check by remembering God’s undeserved grace that was extended to me, even when I was a sinner.
Delve Deep Into Truth
The world’s message is that what you believe to be true about creation, life, death, sin and eternity – can be defined by your own thoughts, feelings and experiences.
But the Bible tells a different story. It describes basic truths that are eternal and unchanging.
My pastor has a saying that “Your faith is only as strong as the object of your faith”.
In other words, we can believe in whatever we want to, but why would we want to believe something that isn’t true? Why do we hold to beliefs that lack complete evidence?
Faith in God is so much more than a hope or a wish. It’s based on real events that were recorded in history, including the very real person of Jesus Christ (God in the flesh) who came to fulfill God’s promises to those who trust Him.
In John 14:6, Jesus says,
“I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”
I want to know Jesus more and more, allowing Him – Truth itself – to permeate my life completely. Because, honestly? I fight my sin nature every day. I want things my way, but I know Jesus has better things for me when I actually DO what He says.
His ways are higher than my ways, and I can trust in the truth of the Word to guide my life.
My prayer is that as I seek God more, His truth will transform me. I want my attitude, my actions and in turn, my relationships to reflect this pursuit of truth and love which I can’t manufacture on my own.
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Have a Quiet Time Every Day
This obviously goes right along with seeking truth, because I have to be IN the Word to find it.
But something I’ve learned since becoming a mom several years ago is that finding “quiet time” to really sit and listen to God is NOT easy. I have to be extremely intentional about it or it just won’t happen.
This year, I am more committed than ever to finding these quiet moments, even in the chaos of motherhood.
I have never spent time in the Word or in prayer that I’ve regretted.
I recently started reading the book, Secrets of the Secret Place which addresses this very topic. It’s so simple, yet mind-blowing to realize how we can really connect to God if we seek Him in the “secret place” (Matthew 6:6).
I encourage you to read this book this year if you are like me and you feel like your quiet time seems to go through stages: rushed, mechanical – or even non-existent at times.
We’ve all been there as moms, and sometimes a fresh perspective can be the catalyst we need to remember that God is always there, just waiting to refresh our souls.
Keep a Prayer Journal
Confession time: I haven’t kept a prayer journal in years.
More than once, I would buy a notebook and just stare at it, feeling overwhelmed. Not knowing what to write. (And I’m a writer!).
Last year, I bought some pretty journals to give as Christmas gifts, and ended up with one left over. I felt that tug of the Holy Spirit that this one was meant for me. This year is my year to start keeping a prayer journal again.
When I take time to write down my prayers, God somehow becomes more personal to me. I can more clearly focus on who I’m praying for and what I’m praising God for (there’s always something!).
I encourage you to just start small if you need to. That’s my plan this year! No need to write a book every day. Just write what’s on your heart.
Recently, I came across an old prayer journal from the early years of my marriage. When I look back on those heartfelt words, I can see where my prayers became a living conversation with a loving God- and less of a checkbox-commitment or hurried obligation.
Find a Mentor – or Be One
You can probably think of at least one woman who has impacted your spiritual life. The type of woman who encouraged you, challenged you – and most of all, loved you as a sister in Christ.
If you don’t have someone like this in your life, I encourage you to find her this year. Your church is a great place to start, or there may be other women in your life who can fill this role (family, friends, even neighbors).
In Titus chapter 2, older women in the church are instructed to teach younger women how to be loving wives, mothers and homemakers, “that the Word of God not be reviled”.
I don’t know that there’s a definition for what exact age you transition from being mentored to being a mentor. But I’m realizing at this stage in life with 4 children and 16 years of marriage, I should look for more opportunities to mentor.
At the same time, I’m still very thankful for those women who continue to play this role in my life.
Whether we realize it or not, there’s probably other moms watching you- how you handle your children and the stress that accompanies mom-life. Other women are looking to see how your life reflects the character of Jesus.
While there are no perfect parents, other moms need to be encouraged that being a Godly wife and mother is possible, and worth pursuing.
Start a Family Devotion Time
We have a variety of devotionals that my kids enjoy reading at bedtime – everything from Berenstain Bears Bedtime Devotional for the little ones, to the Bethany Hamilton (Soul Surfer) Devotional for my oldest daughter.
But I’ve struggled with making the time for devotions the whole family can participate in together.
This year, I want to institute at least a once a week family devotional time. I downloaded the book Instant Family Devotions and I’m excited to see our family grow in faith together, through this time of study and interaction.
This particular book has 52 devotions, one for each week of the year, so I felt it was a great choice for our goal.
You don’t necessarily need a devotional to have a family devotion time – all you need is the Bible and a time that’s set aside for learning and growing together. Even preschoolers can pray and answer simple questions.
Just as with your own quiet time, prayer and Bible Study- our kids are watching our example. So try not to stress about everyone’s cooperation or participation. Consistency is the main thing, and that’s what I plan to focus on with our family devotion time.
What are Your Spiritual Goals?
So the question is, what spiritual goals do you plan to pursue this year?
I encourage you to spend time in prayer and ask God what areas he wants you to grow in. He will reveal those places that need refining. He will bring to mind those you can serve, and how you can best serve them.
As much as we try to set all kinds of goals in our lives, we simply can’t know what’s ahead. We can only take faithful actions.
But the best part of spiritual goal-setting is, we serve a God who has promised to be right beside us as we seek Him first – no matter what the future holds.
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